(Photo courtesy of Simon Greening)
We make endless choices in life - every minute of every day. But how much responsibility do we really take for them?
We will always have a minimum of two choices in everything we do - yes/no, do/don't, agree/disagree, and so on. So why is it that we often feel like we don't have a choice?
When we find ourselves in highly emotional or stressful states our rationality becomes rather clouded. Leading us to a place where we see and feel like we have only one option.
So we take this one option (just to remind you the opposite of that option is the rest of your choice ?) and more often than not, it's a poor decision.
The path I'm walking you down right now is more than decision, it's the responsibility of the decision. Taking our 'only' option and then being the victim of it, putting yourself into a viscous cycle, and failing to see that the only person responsible for it is you. You act and you create, your world is your manifestation.
So now here's the thing, when we take full responsibility for our choices, (now this might seem weird but go with me on it) we actually get better at making choices - da-daah! It's not magic, not entirely, it's simply great logical sense!
Now, I'm not perfect and I confess that I've experienced and been on the above path. Difference for me now is I take a heck of a lot responsibility for my choices (with the occasional need for a slap in the face - haha!). When something 'bad' is going on in my life I reflect on where it could have started and more specifically where I have allowed (decided) to let that happen.
Now here's the juicy close for this blog....(drum roll please...) You may have heard the saying 'it is better to ask for forgiveness than permission'. Yes? Okay, so you make a bad decision, you need to forgive yourself for it. When you forgive yourself you in turn forgive the whole world around you. This is only the first step, then be more mindful of the decisions you do make. When your stuck, ask yourself - "if I had another choice, what would it be?" And write them both down creating a visual aid and reminder that there are two. If your feeling even more curious ask yourself - "if I had another choice, what would it be?".
Make decisions that will fill your life with purpose and happiness.
Much love and remember, be your best!
Bhav xx
