Mid January this year I had a weekend stay at my friend's place up to the Sunshine Coast. Four or five days before I'd messaged an ex and asked if he wanted to catch up, and I hadn't heard anything before I'd made my way up there and put it down to 'it was meant to be'.
And then I got a message during the day apologising for the delay in response and that he'd like to meet up, and so we did. I had a lovely time, we chatted for ages and got on really well...at least I thought.
Okay, so I'm going to drop a quick history lesson.
Me and this guy dated for a couple of months at the beginning of last year. I felt a lot of excitement with him...messaging, talking and seeing each other, there were definitely butterflies. Following some other stresses in my life (redundancy a key one) and stresses in his life he called it a day. I was devastated. I experienced a lot of heartache and my close friends will attest to the stupid amount of tears.
But I'm of the mindset that you should acknowledge and feel your emotions. I wasn't always like this, and used to hide my emotions endlessly, and believe you me it's not healthy! That said when I say acknowledge and feel your emotions I don't mean stew in them day after day after day...but little did that help me when I was doing just that!
So fast forward four months and I'm doing my PSYCH-K Advanced training. In the training is a participant who is attending as a refresher and I ask if she would do a stress transformation with me, this was after we'd talked about her having done them for her past relationships. So that's what we did, a stress transformation on my relationship with this dude...transforming all negative/stressful experiences, feelings and thoughts (all stressful energy associated with this relationship and person).
I felt frikkin' amazing!
Just imagine for a moment that you were able to let go of all of the emotional baggage that you're carrying around from bad relationships/break-ups!! And this was only the tip of the iceberg for me (I've since done a little more with other past relationships).
So coming back to mid-Jan, this is why I messaged the ex. I had transformed and let go of all my stress around him and us that I was simply able to be myself in the best way when I saw him.
But...and it's a huge BUT...it doesn't change his behaviour or actions.
I messaged him again, in Feb to say that I was going to be up the Coast again and asked if he'd want to go out for dinner with me.
No reply...
It is certainly rude, given that we had exchanged a few messages in between. But for me, it seems that this 'was meant to be'.
I can experience all the pain that I did, and still be a strong woman and better yet remain my authentic weird and wonderful self.
And, whilst it's late in the day here in Australia to start celebrating International Women's Day, it's never too late to let go of the pain of your past and embrace the wonderful woman that you are.
Be your weird and wonderful best ladies!
Bhav xx
